How To Develop Peace ~The Dalai Lama Speaks

How To Develop Peace ~The Dalai Lama Speaks

In 2007 his holiness the Dalai Lama gave a talk at the Radio City Hall in New York City on how we can find peace and prosperity in today’s world. I remember living in the Big Apple at the time and wanting to go see him but unfortunately that was just not possible. So I was very glad to come across the DVD that the National Geographic recorded of the event. It was an incredible talk and I was very inspired to write a post about it. What moved me the most was his definition of peace as well as his advice on how to attain it. He really got me thinking when he said: “Peace does not mean just the mere absence of violence. Peace is much more fuller.” I had never looked at that way but I completely see it now. He teaches us that true peace comes from inner peace, it begins internally. And we will only achieve world peace through inner peace. Violence and non-violence are not manifested externally but born from motivation. The Dalia Lama provided two examples to clarify his point: one of a person using harsh words with a loved one in order to protect them or help them and in contrast the act of pretending to care about someone through false words and affections in order to selfishly get something from them. The first one is not an act of violence because it comes from love and compassion, from a sense of concern. But the latter, although externally appears to also come from love, the motivation behind it makes it an...
5 Steps To Healing Emotional Wounds

5 Steps To Healing Emotional Wounds

We all get hurt emotionally, there’s just no way around it. It seems to be a part of our curriculum here on this earth. But sometimes it can be hard to move past the pain and the hurt. How can we begin the healing process when the emotional wounds are so painful? The first thing we need to remember is that pain is a part of life, it’s how we learn and grow. Suffering, however, is optional. We don’t have to suffer, we can choose instead to heal our pain and our fears. Here are five principles of healing that I have found very useful when healing emotional wounds: 1.      Decide to begin your healing journey Healing is a journey, not a destination. Before you embark on this journey you need to first decide that this is what you want. You need to commit yourself to the journey, knowing that there will be times when you will want to run away and give up. It will most probably get worse before it gets better. You need to know this so that when you are faced with the challenges and the fears you will know that they are only temporary and that you can overcome them. You will have the resources in place to support you through it. 2.      Accept what is Our biggest disappointments in life come from wanting things to be different then they are. This is one of the hardest things for people to accept but it’s truly our path to finding peace and joy in our lives. There’s a paradox here that we need to always...
Marianne Williamson’s Our Deepest Fear

Marianne Williamson’s Our Deepest Fear

What is your biggest fear? How is it stopping you from being and doing the things you most want in this life? Most of us are not even conscious of what we are afraid of. We are afraid of our own fears! When you look your fear in the eye it loses a lot of its power. It might still be there but at least you will know what you are dealing with and can have a better chance of not letting it paralyze you.  We usually have a way of hiding behind our feelings and our fears and when we have the courage to face our own truth we will finally discover our full potential. One of my favorite messages comes from Marianne Williamson’s book A Return to Love: Reflections on the Principles of “A Course in Miracles”. It has become widely known as “Our Deepest Fear” and it teaches us a powerful lesson about understanding our greatest fear. Our fears are not always what we think they are. So why not question your fears instead of simply accepting them or even believing in them? Perhaps an even greater lesson this passage teaches us is that we are so much more than we could ever image and once we allow that greatest to shine through we not only become a grander version of ourselves but we also allow others to find their greatness.   Our Deepest Fear – Marianne Williamson “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most...
Mother Teresa’s Do It Anyway

Mother Teresa’s Do It Anyway

When life brings you down and people criticize you who do you turn to? How do you keep yourself motivated and inspired to keep going? We need to find anchors in our lives that will remind us why we are doing what we are doing. It’s so easy to let difficult times bring us down and if we are not careful we can allow these small roadblocks prevent us from following our dreams. When we have a big enough “why” the “how” becomes simple and less intimidating. Take time to find out what your “why” is and don’t make it all about money or things. Material things are great and they are here for us to enjoy them but if it becomes all about that than your life will feel empty and meaningless. Make your life about something bigger than yourself and you will become unstoppable. One of my favorite reminders of why I’m doing what I’m doing is Mother Teresa’s famous “Do It Anyway”. It keeps me focused on what’s really important in this life and puts everything back into perspective. I highly recommend making a copy of it and reading it every day to give you the strength you need to focus on what’s really important in your life. Mother Teresa – “Do It Anyway”   People are often unreasonable, illogical and self centered; Forgive them anyway. If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives; Be kind anyway. If you are successful, you will win some false friends and some true enemies; Succeed anyway. If you are honest and frank, people may cheat...
Are You a Source For Good or a Source For Hate?

Are You a Source For Good or a Source For Hate?

None of us is perfect. We all make mistakes. That’s how we grow and learn. It’s part of our evolution process. If anyone ever proclaims to be perfect or the best thing on this earth you better watch out.  They are either buying into an illusion or trying to manipulate you for their own selfish benefits. What’s more important to focus on is the intention we bring into our lives and to the lives of other people who cross our paths.  Are we a source of goodness and kindness or are we only focused on ourselves and our personal interests? Are we willing to use hate, intimidation and bullying to get ahead and become heartless in the process? For what? What will we ultimately gain? Anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die. When we hurt others we ultimately hurt ourselves. There’s a Buddhist quote that says that “anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die”. Until we recognize this truth we will continue to hurt ourselves more than we could ever hurt others with our anger and hatred. We live in a complex society and we are sophisticated beings who have been given the capacity to think in a deep level. So conflicts and disagreements are eminent. What is optional is violence and aggression. If you disagree with someone why not focus on what you believe is the truth and defend your truth instead of trying to bring down the opposing view? Why the need to destroy others so that your truth can exist? Stand up for your beliefs and...

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